Many Unitarian Universalists have a conflicted relationship with Memorial Day. Some of us would rather go camping or spend the day in the park than think about the meaning of the day. Partly this is because Memorial Day can include a kind of patriotism that feels more like a religion. Many of us also value peace. We struggle with our nation’s military industrial complex, and want to offer respect to those who have given their lives in the service of the nation. Some of us are veterans. How do we hold all these experiences authentically and in harmony with our values?